It is safe to say that I was a different person ten years ago. I was living in Virginia for the first time, in a small two bedroom apartment with my girlfriend from college. Even though I had already done professional Web work for two years, I had just started the job that would cement my career in this industry. I had a dog and a new car.
It seemed like I had my entire life ahead of me.
I have never been really close with my family. There are a few reasons for this, not many of which I am going to get into right now. The primary reasons are that I am eleven years younger than my next closest sibling. By the time I was old enough to carry on a realistic conversation with my siblings most of them had moved away to go to college or beyond. The other primary reason is that I am the only child of my parent’s marriage. I felt, and still feel, particularly estranged from my father’s children from his first marriage. We have never had a falling out or anything, it’s just coincidence that we are related somehow. Otherwise they are just people to me. My two half-sister from my mother’s side lived with me during my early childhood. Out of everyone in my family, I was closest with the younger of my two sisters. She was the one closest to me in age, and while I didn’t really realize it at the time, she became the one person I could talk to about anything. She was old enough to give me advice based on experience, but not so old that she forgot what it was like to be stupid and not listen to advice.
She had bailed me out of more trouble than I should retell on a public platform. From the time I stole my Mom’s car at fifteen to the reason why there were metal detectors installed in my high school after I graduated, she always stood by me. Even when I fucked up, and that’s more than I can say I did for any of my friends or family.
At any rate, back then I felt like I had plenty of time to reconnect where I wanted to, especially now that I was done with school and had some sense of autonomy. I wasn’t interested in getting married, but I was in love with my college girlfriend and there was no end in sight. I looked forward to visiting my mother, stepfather, sister and uncle in New York state, and had designs on visiting my father in Colorado someday. I had friends scattered all over the country, and now that I had this job I could stop scratching for every penny and start making bigger plans.
It seemed like I had my entire life ahead of me.
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